Today we arrive in North Carolina for training #3 (only one more to go after this!). I’m very excited about this week. Not only are we going to receive some great information and resources to help us in our ministry but we’re also going to be spending time with some awesome people in the beautiful mountains of North Carolina.I’ve been to this camp pre-Ryan and I remember being disappointed that I didn’t take advantage of the beautiful hiking trails as much as I should have. Any place that provides a map like this on their website is basically telling you to go and enjoy exploring the area. Please be praying for us this week. Please pray that God would open our eyes, that we would have teachable minds and hearts and that we would have a strengthening week for our marriage.
“It’s like calling a girl I like and not knowing what she’s going to say,” Ryan said as he was psyching himself up to call another church. Thankfully Ryan has a lovely wife now (if I do say so myself:-) and has no need or desire to call girls but we both still have the responsibility to contact individuals and churches while we continue to support raise. Each and every one of these phone calls, text messages, emails and Facebook notes require extra thought and prayer. We never know what the response will be but we will keep working until we reach our goal or until God directs us elsewhere.So as we continue this process, here are 6 things we want our current supporters and potential supporters to know.
- We wish there was an easier way. From the beginning Ryan and I have been thankful to have a long list of friends, relatives and acquaintances in our lives who care about us. We want first and foremost for people to be a part of our ministry through prayer but we also know that if everyone who reads this blog, our newsletters or generally keeps up with us gave $20 a month, we would be more than fully funded. But we are thankful to everyone who does what they can, whether that is fervent prayer, a smaller donation either monthly or one-time and for those many individuals who are able to and give more than $20 a month or even larger one-time gifts.
- Ryan and I do not enjoy asking for money. Now before anyone jumps on that phrase to remind me that we are “asking people to partner with us” or “asking people to join in our ministry” or any other way of saying it, I understand and we truly view this as a partnership with our supporters. However, at the end of the day we need money in our account to do our jobs and that funding has to come from somewhere. We know people have a long list of demands on their budgets so faithfully we will continue to ask. And prayerfully we will continue to trust that the money will come.
- We know that there are benefits to this system. At this point in the process we get to travel and see people face to face. Skype is good but there is something about sitting down for a meal or just hanging out. Also when people join us with interest, prayers and/or finances, we want to keep them informed and keep in touch as personally as possible. This is one of the reasons I blog, we do Instagram, keep up on Facebook, with newsletters, etc. We see the benefit in sharing our story with those who are invested in us. And we also love hearing from you and following your journey.
- Don’t be afraid of our phone call or messages. Please believe that we do enjoy sharing our story. We would much rather people be up front about their financial situation but that won’t change our desire to share and keep in touch. Maybe God might even change your heart when you hear more about our ministry:-) We are thankful for all our relationships and would love to make a time to see you face to face if we’re in the area or catch up by phone or Skype.
- We genuinely want you to pray about supporting us (and discuss it with your spouse if that’s applicable to you). Pray. Listen to God. Seek wise counsel. And if God is telling you not to support us or to support another ministry or give more to your church or whatever it may be, listen. But if you are hearing from God to support us, pray for us or advocate for us, listen.
- No is an acceptable answer. Or even, not now. Or even, maybe when things change. Or even, we don’t know. Seriously, it’s ok.
Thank you for being a part of our ministry in whatever way you can. We look forward continuing to share our journey and enjoy having you along with us on this ride.
This list is first and foremost for me, a reminder of why I choose to love this crazy, wonderful man each day. But I share it with you because I want you to get a glimpse of the amazing way he was created as well as the many ways he is gifted. There is a lot to love about this man.
#63- He honors his parents.
This month we are living with Ryan’s parents, yes we have a couple short trips here and there but a month with the in-laws is enough to make many people groan. However, I really do enjoy being with Ryan’s family and I especially love getting to see him daily interacting with them in special ways. He truly loves and honors his parents.#64- His Hands
Ryan often reaches across the center console of the car and his hand finds a place to rest on my knee. This is an especially comforting gesture on days that we fight. Ryan has amazing hands. Hands that make me feel safe and comforted. His hands that can speak to me with a simple touch, telling me everything is going to be ok.
#65- His cheesy heart.
Being in Wisconsin is always a reminder of how much of Ryan’s childhood shaped him. Although he grew up in Wisconsin and has lived in a couple other states, he most recently spent over 10 years in California. So when Ryan introduces himself he often describes himself as a Californian with a cheese for a heart. This description is a reflection of his humor as well as an apt description of his history that still influences him today.
Check out my April post for more reasons Why I Love My Husband.
It started with a random afternoon free in Sacramento. Ryan said, “Let’s go see the capitol building.”
And now we’ve toured a few capitols on the west coast and visited a few more on this trip. We have another couple capitol buildings on the list during this road trip because if we’re in the area, we will at least stop for a capitol selfie. Can you name these capitols?
Tam Tam slams are one of our favorite things to introduce to family and friends. They tend to go over a bit better than vegemite. Although it is widely known that I enjoy vegemite on toast and I wish more people shared in my love for this tasty, salty treat. But this post isn’t about vegemite so back to the delicious Tim Tam. Monday I posted about the Tim Tam Taste Test. And after the taste test we, of course, had to celebrate by experiencing the Tim Tam Slam.The Tim Tam Slam is done by using a Tim Tam as a straw to drink hot chocolate (or your other hot beverage of choice) and the liquid makes the biscuit deliciously melty and gooey. Ryan has his directions down pat and always cracks me up when he uses the words “structural integrity”. I’ve documented the process below for your future Tim Tam Slam enjoyment.1. Hold the Tim Tam and take small bites out of opposite corners.
2. Put one bitten end of the Tim Tam in the hot chocolate and suck the liquid in through the other end.3. Once you feel the structural integrity of the biscuit start to collapse then “slam” the biscuit into your mouth. 4. Enjoy! These Tim Tam Slams have made such fun memories on many of our stops. I’m glad that Tim Tam Slams have made their way into a few homes as a favorite dessert treat. Ryan and I will continue sharing the love until our box of Australian Tim Tams is empty.
Ryan and I are here in Colorado working towards getting to Australia but one of the perks of our travel schedule is time with family. We are thankful that we can celebrate Ryan’s brother’s birthday today. May the 4th be with you! But having yesterday with our nephews while their parents were working was extra special. We did a few fun things (like take the lizard to the pet store to confirm that she was indeed a she) but my highlight was the Garden of the Gods.This beautiful park is free and open to the public like it has been since the land was bought in the 1870s by a man named Charles Elliot Perkins. And it’s been called Garden of the Gods even longer because when these large sandstone formations were seen back in the 1850s, one man remarked that it would be a “capital place for a beer garden” to which another responded, “Beer Garden! Why it is a fit place for the Gods to assemble. We will call it the Garden of the Gods.” This place is indeed a beautiful example of God’s creation.These incredible rock formations definitely make you feel small. Yesterday was a beautiful day to explore, climb and enjoy. We stayed on the path when we had to but the nephews really enjoyed the places where we were able to make our way up and down the rocks themselves. Ryan and I also took the opportunity to use a nephew’s photography skills to capture just the two of us together.And of course a day like this isn’t complete without a little photobombing. Even the most basic backdrop at Garden of the Gods was lovely. The bright white clouds and blue sky contrasted beautifully with the red sandstone.Ryan already has lots of great uncle memories with these guys but it doesn’t hurt to make a few more. I love the fact that the memories we are making now will actually have a chance of sticking with them. Having the boys say that they want us to stay longer and visit more often is a compliment but it’s also one of the many things that makes it emotionally difficult to think of the reality of our move to Australia.Unlike Ryan, I have only had a handful of times with these guys. And despite the wind, I was happy to have this day to get to know them better and hopefully we will have many more special days in the future too.If you’re in the Colorado Springs area, Garden of the Gods is a definite must see. It’s easy hiking and the views are spectacular. Each different angle of Pikes Peak provides another viewing treat as you walk through these amazing sandstone formations. I’m so glad that I was able to explore this place with Ryan and our nephews.
There is no shortage of reasons why I love my husband. Even on the difficult days, I still find that there are many reasons to celebrate our marriage and how God is working in us together.
#60- His ability to focus on the moment. Although frustrating at certain times, I wouldn’t change my husband’s ability to be in the moment, enjoy what is currently happening and not be weighed down by all the other stuff that can easily crowd out in-the-moment joy. This is one of the things I truly wish I could glean from Ryan, even just a little.
#61-He’s a cat whisperer. No, not every cat likes him but he has an uncanny ability to connect with cats and other animals too. He’s amazed a couple people who thought they had cats who don’t like anyone but by the end of our visit, Ryan had them purring. #62- He doesn’t yell. I really don’t know what it sounds like for my husband to raise his voice. I’m very expressive when frustrated or angry, however, Ryan chooses his words carefully and rarely even raises his voice. Sometimes I wish he would just yell and let it out but we both know that yelling is probably not the solution. I love Ryan for his gentle, not yelling ways.
As much as I do love singing Ryan’s praises, this list is as much for me as it is for anyone else. Marriage isn’t easy and I need these constant reminders that God brought us together for a reason and that there are indeed, many reasons why I love my husband.
Ryan and I spoke again tonight and we found ourselves in a room filled with many people who have been “holding the rope” for me for many years. And now they’re holding the rope for us. We look forward to continued relationships with many people who are on the other end, holding us up as we move towards Australia. Thank you to everyone who is in this category! We appreciate you.What do I mean by holding the rope? Read the account below about William Carey, a missionary to India in the late 1700s and early 1800s.
After hearing an account of the spiritual needs of India, the secretary of the meeting remarked: “There is a gold mine in India, but it seems almost as deep as the center of the earth. Who will venture to explore it?” “I will venture to go down,” said William Carey, “but remember that you must hold the ropes.”
Are you back from Australia already? How is Australia? What’s it like living down under? Back so soon!? These are all questions we receive on a somewhat regular basis. It’s especially prevalent in areas where we have spent a lot of time but now are mostly gone. If we didn’t leave for Australia, than where did we go?Coming back to Camarillo is a little strange for me and almost surreal. We lived here for the first two years of our marriage, and Ryan had lived here for a few years even before that. We use to have a home, jobs, friends, church and community. It was all here. But since early February, we’ve been on the road working towards the goal of serving in Australia. We even had a good-bye party in Camarillo because we wouldn’t be living here any longer and of course we’re not at church every Sunday anymore. So it’s understandable that some people in are confused about where we are but no, we’re not in Australia…yet. We’re working towards it!
Our home is currently wherever we are together. We knew that going into our marriage. Through prayer, the wisdom of our organization and God’s timing, we are working towards getting to Australia. This requires more financial support as well as training among other things. Since you’re a blog reader you know that we’re still here in the US and you’ve hopefully been following our adventures. Please pray for peace for us in God’s timing. We may not be in Australia yet but we definitely feel that God has already started our ministry.
It’s been a couple months since I posted reasons why I love my husband (From January- Reasons #54-#56). Since February Ryan and I have been spending so much time together on the road and like many things in life, it’s wonderful, terrible, challenging and I wouldn’t have it any other way. But it still seems like a good time to remind myself why I love this man so much. #57- He is a hard worker. He would much rather be outside enjoying the sunshine and hanging out in the beautiful mountains pictured behind him. But he knows that this is now his job and this is how he is able to provide for us as a family. I’m very thankful for my hardworking husband.
#58- His positive attitude. I say I’m being realistic but it’s often quite negative. And as much as I am trying to work on my own attitude it’s helpful to have a very positive husband. Ryan’s amazing optimism is a nice balance for me. He helps me to remember that rainbows, sunshine, gumdrops, piglets and puppies all make the world a better place.
#59- His confidence in God’s ability. Just like my lack of positivity, I also tend to limit God’s ability to work in our lives and be in and of himself the impetus for change. But Ryan is confident in God’s ability to be the omnipresent, gracious and powerful, all-knowing and loving God of the universe. This is amazingly encouraging for me while we walk through a daunting time of tasks and work that will not be accomplished in our own finite power.
For my single friends: The list I had of what I wanted in a husband didn’t include many of the things that now I am thankful to have in order to promote a healthy marriage. If you desire to be married, I would encourage you to pray for your future spouse and pray that God would be equipping them with the traits and abilities that you can’t see you need now but that God knows you will need in the future.
For my married friends: What are three things that you love about your spouse? (You don’t need to make a public declaration, unless you want to, but I’d love to encourage you to think about it.)